The Powerful Black Women: Part 3

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Yanla Vansant

Part 1 of this discussion of Guilt and Shame concentrated on reasons why women harbor guilt and shame which included: Past Experiences of Abuse or Trauma; Feelings that she has to be all things for everyone; and being Physically and Mentally oppressed.  These reasons keep women trapped which will ultimately jeopardize her health.

Still I Rise

Part 2 of this discussion was reasons to Let Go of Guilt and Shame that increases the risk for women to experience morbidity problems of: Anxiety; Depressed Moods; Self-loathing.  Holding on to guilt and shame can cause unwanted health concerns.  Guilt and Shame may appear that she is barring all things and keeping it all together to the outside world, but all the while jeopardizing her physical and mental health.

Finally Part 3: The Break-Through

There is a Misconception of Black Women that states:  To be Strong Black women suggests a superhuman trait rendering Black women capable and obligated to take on and handle all the burdens of the world (Walton & Oyewuwo-Gassikia, 2017).

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Strong Black women have gone through some stuff…

 The Powerful Black Woman

  • Recognizes that she has limits:
    • May not have the answers, out of control, emotionally spent, and powerless;
  • Recognizes when to solicit help from others:
    • Enlists a support system (family, friends, faith community, social resources);
  • Takes responsibility for her actions and completes the tasks:
    • Sets clear boundaries;
  • Finally, she shares her story!
    • Helping others by being transparent.

 

 

2 CORINTHIANS 13:9

We are glad whenever we are weak but you are strong;

and our prayer is that you may be fully restored.

 

Peace and Blessings!

By:  Kristen Pettaway, MA LPC Liberty University |

Clinical Case Manager Intern Destination Greatness, PLLC

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Office Sites

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References

Walton, Q. L., & Oyewuwo-Gassikia, O. B. (2017). The case for #blackgirlmagic: Application  of a strengths-based, intersectional practice framework for working with black women with depression. Journal of Women and Social Work, 32(4), 461-475. doi:10.1177/0886109917712213

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Mental Health and Black Girl Magic

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Last week, after the grief blog was published, I was approached by a former classmate in a store. We made small talk about life and how our children were. Before parting, she told me how helpful my blogs were for her every week. As you can imagine I was super shocked, and extremely delighted. Not delighted because people are reading my blogs, but because my blog had done exactly what I intended it to do, help someone.

She explained to me that in her family, mental health is not really a top priority. She told me about how being the only girl in her family with two older brothers, if it didn’t revolve around sports her parents weren’t really interested. She explained to me that before she was diagnosed, she suffered from depression and anxiety for years. She explained to me that her mom and grandmother had both told her to, “suck it up”, about her depression.sad girl

Fast forward to the end of the week, I was scrolling on Facebook and found an article about African American families and mental health. Per usual, I saw something on mental health so of course I read it, plus the girl I had just spoken with a few days prior was indeed an African American female.

Now, I know what you’re thinking, “what does this white girl know about anything in the African American home?”. Truth be told, probably not much. However, as the mother of a biracial child, who has dated African American boys, and who has many friends who just happen to be black, I like to think I am a little informed of the African American culture.  black girl

I have always heard about and seen the differences among races. There’s the stereotypes, the food, and even different slang between white and black people in my small town of Laurens, South Carolina. Of all things, I would have never imagined that mental health would be a topic that was completely opposite in these two races.

However, I was very wrong.

In the article, the author talked about how even as a grown mother of 3 with her PsyD in Clinical Psychology, her family still mocked her about her mental health issues. After more research, I found how common this was for the African American community, especially for girls.

 

After reading this article, my heart hurt for every girl who has been told to “suck it up or “get over it” while battling with her mental health.get over.jpeg

As an avid “googler” I decided to find a list of famous African American females who openly talked about their mental health. I feel like many times people can relate more, to people whom they are like. (Not just the white girl who never hushes about how important mental health is.) I decided to list these females, in hopes that maybe just one girl can tell her friend or family member that she can openly talk about her mental health because, Beyoncé or Kerry Washington (that’s Olivia Pope) does.

Listed below are four of the most fierce and recognized women in Hollywood. These ladies have all been openly interviewed about their mental health.

  1. Beyoncé
  2. Kerry Washington
  3. Oprah
  4. Halle Berry

Now, I am not telling you to back talk your grandma or mama, but next time someone tells you to “get over it” about your mental health, make sure you tell them that if Queen Bey can openly talk about mental health, then you can too!

clarke-sanders-249798

Keep on, Keeping on. *Now go show the world that Black girl magic is real*

 

Katheryn Burton

Clemson University, BS Psychology ’18

Case Management Intern

Destination Greatness, PLLC

Dedicated to the old friend in Target, and all my girls. XOXO

 

About Destination Greatness

Destination Greatness is a mental health and substance abuse psychotherapy agency dedicated to assisting individuals and families in maximizing their level of functioning on all life domains in pursuit of Greatness. Destination Greatness provide individuals and families with the opportunity to live more fulfilling and meaningful lives. Destination Greatness strives to enrich each individual and family through greater self-awareness, focus on strengths, and belief in a greater destiny.

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Services are available to residents if NC, SC, and GA. Schedule your appointment today at http://www.destinationgreatnesspllc.org.

 

 

 

 

 

It’s Time to Stand-Up and Speak-Out

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By: Kristen Pettaway, MA LPC Liberty University | Clinical Case Manager Intern Destination Greatness, PLLC

Women Stand Up

Stand UpSerious business!  There has been an enormous amount of conversation lately about sexual harassment and sexual violence.  Many of the violators have gotten away with this behavior for years.  It has now come to light as many public figures have decided to take a stand and speak out against harassment in the workplace.  I just want to take this opportunity to shine some light on what happens to the individual who may not have a voice to stand-up and speak-out against their perpetrator.

Black Tears

 

Statistics reveal that the highest rates of victimized children are from the African American community.  The effects from such maltreatment can lead to both short-term and long-term consequences on the individual’s mental health.  History of sexual violence and sexual misconduct against African American women in their childhood and adolescence may result in depression, trauma, and suicidal thoughts even successful completion of suicide.

Group DiscussionThis type of behavior should not be tolerated and should not be acceptable in our workplaces nor in our communities.  We must give a voice to the voiceless who continue to struggle through situations that cause them physical and mental harm.  This is a call to action to stand-up and speak-out against sexual predator behavior, sexual violence, sexual harassment, sexual violations and sexual misconduct of any kind.

Until next time, remember the minds of young women are at state!

LogoDestination Greatness is a mental health and substance abuse psychotherapy agency dedicated to assisting individuals and families in maximizing their level of functioning on all life domains in pursuit of Greatness. Destination Greatness provides individuals and families with the opportunity to live more fulfilling and meaningful lives. Destination Greatness strives to enrich each individual and family through greater self-awareness, focus on strengths, and belief in a greater destiny.

 

 

Reference

Vinson, E. S., & Oser, C. B. (2016). Risk and protective factors for suicidal ideation in African American women with a history of sexual violence as a minor. Violence Against Women, 22(14), 1770–1787. doi:10.1177/1077801216632614

5 Tips To Help The Recovering Addict

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By: Kristen Pettaway, MA LPC Liberty University | Clinical Case Manager Intern Destination Greatness, PLLC

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Support Group

Substance use and abuse are rampant in our communities.  For many family and friends of the addicted encouraging efforts may be exhausting and frustrating.  The addiction is controlling your loved one and there seems to be nothing that you can do about it.  Over the past several weeks I have had the opportunity to collaborate with members of Alcoholics Anonymous (AA), Narcotics Anonymous (NA) and Al-Anon.  While attending these meetings I have identified at least five ways that the concerned party of the addict can do to encourage their loved one without offending or becoming frustrated in the process.

AA has been in operation for more than 80 years with NA, and Al-Anon later establishing groups based on the AA principles.  These perceptive groups welcome anyone who has decided that the addictive behavior has become harmful enough to their health and well-being that sobriety is the only option.  While a guest at these different group meetings I walked away with 5 very important ways to help the recovering addict in his or her sobriety.

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  1. To eliminate the frustration: Stop telling the addict about his or her addictive behavior.  In order for the behavior to change the addict must be willing to change it. It is not enough for the family and friends to want the addict to quit his or her behavior.  The addict must want to change his or her behavior on their own.  When the addict is ready to commit to becoming sober they must first admit that there is a problem.  No one can tell the addict that he or she has a problem that needs to be fixed, that revelation must come from within.
  2. Help imageApply the Twelve-Step and the Twelve Traditions to your own life. Once the addict has made a commitment to change he or she must do the work.  Family and friends cannot do the work for the addict.  The family and friends have their own specific job to do for their own well-being and the addict has specific things to do to work on their stuff.  Whatever that stuff is, each person is challenged to work the Twelve-Steps and the Twelve Traditions of the program on their own.tes.org.uk
  1. Love the addict through their recovery. Since family and friends cannot do the work for the addict, trying and continuing to force your will onto the addict is futile and a mere waste of your time.  The only thing you can do is to continue to love them through it, as much as you can.  Prayer will help you help yourself and the addict build strength to go on.  Extending grace to the addict whenever things go wrong.  Forgiveness is a powerful tool.  To see the addict as yourself in the eyes of God who showered you with His grace and love and welcomed you into His presence.
  1. line in the sandSet clear boundaries. Mean what you say and say what you mean.  Just because you love the addict through his or her recovery does not mean you become their doormat.  Avoid becoming passive and enable the behavior.  As the addict’s support system you must also take care of yourself and the other family members who are going through the struggle with you and the addict.  As the supportive person, you may need to demonstrate some “tough love” at times so the addict knows that a boundary has been crossed.  It is not uncommon for an addict to experience jail time, homelessness, or something worst before he or she can turn the situation around.  Setting boundaries is an important instrument to provide safety for you and your family.vtdance
  2. And finally, exercise some patience. Live your life and allow the addict to live his or her life as well.  The concerned family and friends cannot control the behavior or take care of the addict nor is it your responsibility to do so.  The addict must take control of their own well-being.  Even if the addict is a child under the age of 18 years of age.  Parents are physically responsible for the well-being of the child but they cannot control their feelings, emotions, or behavior.  But if there are clear boundaries and rules in place everyone will know what will happen if one of those boundaries has been crossed.  It is not uncommon for an addict to go through recovery or rehab several times before he or she is able to quit.  Continue to care and support him or her for the effort toward recovery.

Until next time, be blessed.

request support

LogoAt Destination Greatness, we realize that addiction may co-exist with other diseases.  Yes, the addiction is a disease.  While some can experience using a substance and not become addicted others may become addicted after the first experience.  At Destination Greatness, we will help the individual explore the areas that cause a pivotal role in the addiction, while sobriety and abstinence remain the goal to foster change in the overall quality of life.  Destination Greatness, PLLC is available to anyone who has a desire to change.

 

 

References

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Mental Health and Black Girl Magic

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Last week, after the grief blog was published, I was approached by a former classmate in a store. We made small talk about life and how our children were. Before parting, she told me how helpful my blogs were for her every week. As you can imagine I was super shocked, and extremely delighted. Not delighted because people are reading my blogs, but because my blog had done exactly what I intended it to do, help someone.

She explained to me that in her family, mental health is not really a top priority. She told me about how being the only girl in her family with two older brothers, if it didn’t revolve around sports her parents weren’t really interested. She explained to me that before she was diagnosed, she suffered from depression and anxiety for years. She explained to me that her mom and grandmother had both told her to, “suck it up”, about her depression.sad girl

Fast forward to the end of the week, I was scrolling on Facebook and found an article about African American families and mental health. Per usual, I saw something on mental health so of course I read it, plus the girl I had just spoken with a few days prior was indeed an African American female.

Now, I know what you’re thinking, “what does this white girl know about anything in the African American home?”. Truth be told, probably not much. However, as the mother of a biracial child, who has dated African American boys, and who has many friends who just happen to be black, I like to think I am a little informed of the African American culture.  black girl

I have always heard about and seen the differences among races. There’s the stereotypes, the food, and even different slang between white and black people in my small town of Laurens, South Carolina. Of all things, I would have never imagined that mental health would be a topic that was completely opposite in these two races.

However, I was very wrong.

In the article, the author talked about how even as a grown mother of 3 with her PsyD in Clinical Psychology, her family still mocked her about her mental health issues. After more research, I found how common this was for the African American community, especially for girls.

 

After reading this article, my heart hurt for every girl who has been told to “suck it up or “get over it” while battling with her mental health.get over.jpeg

As an avid “googler” I decided to find a list of famous African American females who openly talked about their mental health. I feel like many times people can relate more, to people whom they are like. (Not just the white girl who never hushes about how important mental health is.) I decided to list these females, in hopes that maybe just one girl can tell her friend or family member that she can openly talk about her mental health because, Beyoncé or Kerry Washington (that’s Olivia Pope) does.

Listed below are four of the most fierce and recognized women in Hollywood. These ladies have all been openly interviewed about their mental health.

  1. Beyoncé
  2. Kerry Washington
  3. Oprah
  4. Halle Berry

Now, I am not telling you to back talk your grandma or mama, but next time someone tells you to “get over it” about your mental health, make sure you tell them that if Queen Bey can openly talk about mental health, then you can too!

clarke-sanders-249798

Keep on, Keeping on. *Now go show the world that Black girl magic is real*

 

Katheryn Burton

Clemson University, BS Psychology ’18

Case Management Intern

Destination Greatness, PLLC

Dedicated to the old friend in Target, and all my girls. XOXO

 

About Destination Greatness

Destination Greatness is a mental health and substance abuse psychotherapy agency dedicated to assisting individuals and families in maximizing their level of functioning on all life domains in pursuit of Greatness. Destination Greatness provide individuals and families with the opportunity to live more fulfilling and meaningful lives. Destination Greatness strives to enrich each individual and family through greater self-awareness, focus on strengths, and belief in a greater destiny.

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Services are available to residents if NC, SC, and GA. Schedule your appointment today at http://www.destinationgreatnesspllc.org.

 

 

 

 

 

7 Signs of Bullying

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By: Kristen Pettaway, MA LPC Liberty University | Clinical Case Manager Intern Destination Greatness, PLLC

Bully Stats

Male Bully

Bullying is a form of hostile aggression of an imbalance of power where the one doing the bullying presents as a more powerful person or group attacking than the less powerful one.  Bullying behavior is intended to annoy or harm the victim and occurs repeatedly over time.

 

Cyber Bully

Bullying can be in the form of verbal (i.e. name-calling, or threats), psychological (i.e. spreading rumors or exclusion) physical (i.e. kicking, hitting, or taunting).  Bullying can be done directly or indirectly at schools in the classroom, hallway, playground; and sometimes anonymously through email, and text messages, and through social media (i.e. Facebook,                                                                                           Instagram, chat rooms, etc.).

School girl Bullies

Bullying can present in many ways but maintains the same essential mean-spiritedness of dominance over others through hostile means, and no empathy for the victim.  Bullying is widespread and most likely to occur in middle school, but bullying can start as early as in late elementary school and extend into high school. Bullying victims, as well as those who bully, are usually male.  However, the population of female bullying has increased in recent years with females using relational aggression through the avenue of social media.

7 Signs of bullying include:

Depression                                                    Hopelessness

Feelings of isolation                                    Loss of friendships

High levels of anxiety                                 Unhappiness

Self-injury and/or thoughts of suicide

 

Workplace Bully

Bullying is not only a problem for children and adolescents but adults can experience bullying as well.  Often times bullying for adults may occur in the workplace and can affect them in the same manner.

 

Recognizing the signs is the first step to combat bullying behavior.  The best way to stop bullying is to tell someone and to bring it to light.  Bullying can be stopped and help is available.

Until next time reflect on this!Workplace Stats

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5 Tips to Overcome The Monday Blues

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By: Kristen Pettaway, MA LPC Liberty University | Clinical Case Manager Intern Destination Greatness, PLLC

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Have you heard of the Monday blues?  The Monday blues may be triggered by returning to the routine of life after experiencing an awesome weekend.  Other Monday blues can be triggered by not obtaining enough sunlight.  It happens during the cold winter months when the days are shorter and we stay indoors longer.

The Monday blues can happen to anyone at any time.  Students working on a school paper all weekend without taking a break, a stay at home mother with no adult interactions, the retired person with nothing to do, even the elderly experience the Monday blues.

The Monday blues are common as life becomes mundane.  However, if the Monday blues last for several days or even several weeks then you may be experiencing depression.  Depression can also happen to anyone at any time.  If you are unable to shake the sad, blue, drab, low-spirited feelings, or experience feelings or thoughts of suicide, you should seek professional help.

The most important thing to do is to avoid falling deeper into depression by withdrawing from the world.  Even though it may be difficult to resist becoming isolated, the best medicine for depression is to get out and to get active. Hebrews 10:24-25 reminds us to consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds, not giving up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but encouraging one another and all the more as you see the Day approaching.  Look to the Lord and seek His face always (1 Chronicles 16:11) and stay in fellowship with others for encouragement.

Finally, to help combat depression individuals should eat clean healthy foods, maintain a regular exercise program, let friends and family help where they can, stay connected, and stay inspired.  Individuals experiencing Major Depression may also need the assistance of medication.  A healthy mind, body and spirit help are tools to combat bouts of depression.

Until next time aim for your Destiny!

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Destination Greatness is a mental health and substance abuse psychotherapy agency dedicated to assisting individuals and families in maximizing their level of functioning on all life domains in pursuit of Greatness. Destination Greatness provides individuals and families with the opportunity to live more fulfilling and meaningful lives. Destination Greatness strives to enrich each individual and family through greater self-awareness, focus on strengths, and belief in a greater destiny.

http://www.destinationgreatnesspllc.org

 

References

Bible Gateway. (n.d.). Retrieved from http://www.biblegateway.com/

growing4life.net. (2017, September 26). Stormy blue sky. Retrieved from Bing.com: https://www.bing.com/images/search?q=stormy+blue+sky&qpvt=stormy+blue+sky

 

It’s Time to Stand-Up and Speak-Out

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By: Kristen Pettaway, MA LPC Liberty University | Clinical Case Manager Intern Destination Greatness, PLLC

Stand UpWomen Stand Up

Serious business!  There has been an enormous amount of conversation lately about sexual harassment and sexual violence.  Many of the violators have gotten away with this behavior for years.  It has now come to light as many public figures have decided to take a stand and speak out against harassment in the workplace.  I just want to take this opportunity to shine some light on what happens to the individual who may not have a voice to stand-up and speak-out against their perpetrator.

Black Tears

Statistics reveal that the highest rates of victimized children are from the African American community.  The effects from such maltreatment can lead to both short-term and long-term consequences on the individual’s mental health.  History of sexual violence and sexual misconduct against African American women in their childhood and adolescence may result in depression, trauma, and suicidal thoughts even successful completion of suicide.

Group Discussion

This type of behavior should not be tolerated and should not be acceptable in our workplaces nor in our communities.  We must give a voice to the voiceless who continue to struggle through situations that cause them physical and mental harm.  This is a call to action to stand-up and speak-out against sexual predator behavior, sexual violence, sexual harassment, sexual violations and sexual misconduct of any kind.

The minds of our young women are at state!

Logo

Destination Greatness is a mental health and substance abuse psychotherapy agency dedicated to assisting individuals and families in maximizing their level of functioning on all life domains in pursuit of Greatness. Destination Greatness provides individuals and families with the opportunity to live more fulfilling and meaningful lives. Destination Greatness strives to enrich each individual and family through greater self-awareness, focus on strengths, and belief in a greater destiny.

http://www.destinationgreatnesspllc.org

 

Reference

Vinson, E. S., & Oser, C. B. (2016). Risk and protective factors for suicidal ideation in African American women with a history of sexual violence as a minor. Violence Against Women, 22(14), 1770–1787. doi:10.1177/1077801216632614

Be a Friend, Lend your Ear.

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After seeing one of my best friends experience an unimaginable loss over the Thanksgiving holiday, I felt the need to talk about how to  be there for someone.

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No one can get through devastating situations alone. It is important for people to understand, how to be there for someone who is beginning to start the grief process.

It is important for everyone to understand that people who are experiencing grief don’t always need someone to talk with, many times they just need someone around them. Having a person just to keep them company can help them with their grief.

Sometimes, as a friend or family member, you just need to lend your ear to listen to them, you don’t have to know what to say back, chances are they just need someone to talk to, not someone who will talk back.

Be there for your friend or family member to cry on. There’s an old saying, about a friend will always be a shoulder to cry on. They may not need to right away, but at some point, during their grieving process, they will likely just need someone to hold and comfort them.

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Let them know that you will be there no matter what, if it is just to check in on them, or stay with them for hours. It is important that your friend or family member knows you are there for whatever they need.

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Lastly, pray for your friend or family member. It is always important to pray for your loved ones, but they need it more than ever when they are going through the grieving process.

 

 

Keep on Keeping on.

 

Katheryn Burton

Clemson University, BS Psychology ’18

Case Management Intern

Destination Greatness, PLLC

 

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About Destination Greatness

Destination Greatness is a mental health and substance abuse psychotherapy agency dedicated to assisting individuals and families in maximizing their level of functioning on all life domains in pursuit of Greatness. Destination Greatness provide individuals and families with the opportunity to live more fulfilling and meaningful lives. Destination Greatness strives to enrich each individual and family through greater self-awareness, focus on strengths, and belief in a greater destiny.

 

 

 

 

5 Tips To Help The Recovering Addict

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support

Support Group

Substance use and abuse are rampant in our communities.  For many family and friends of the addicted encouraging efforts may be exhausting and frustrating.  The addiction is controlling your loved one and there seems to be nothing that you can do about it.  Over the past several weeks I have had the opportunity to collaborate with members of Alcoholics Anonymous (AA), Narcotics Anonymous (NA) and Al-Anon.  While attending these meetings I have identified at least five ways that the concerned party of the addict can do to encourage their loved one without offending or becoming frustrated in the process.

AA has been in operation for more than 80 years with NA, and Al-Anon later establishing groups based on the AA principles.  These perceptive groups welcome anyone who has decided that the addictive behavior has become harmful enough to their health and well-being that sobriety is the only option.  While a guest at these different group meetings I walked away with 5 very important ways to help the recovering addict in his or her sobriety.

  1. To eliminate the frustration: Stop telling the addict about his or her addictive behavior.  In order for the behavior to change the addict must be willing to change it. It is not enough for the family and friends to want the addict to quit his or her behavior.  The addict must want to change his or her behavior on their own.  When the addict is ready to commit to becoming sober they must first admit that there is a problem.  No one can tell the addict that he or she has a problem that needs to be fixed, that revelation must come from within.

idea image

Ah – Hah Moment!

  1. Apply the Twelve-Step and the Twelve Traditions to your own life. Once the addict has made a commitment to change he or she must do the work.  Family and friends cannot do the work for the addict.  The family and friends have their own specific job to do for their own well-being and the addict has specific things to do to work on their stuff.  Whatever that stuff is, each person is challenged to work the Twelve-Steps and the Twelve Traditions of the program on their own.

Help image

  1. Love the addict through their recovery. Since family and friends cannot do the work for the addict, trying and continuing to force your will onto the addict is futile and a mere waste of your time.  The only thing you can do is to continue to love them through it, as much as you can.  Prayer will help you help yourself and the addict build strength to go on.  Extending grace to the addict whenever things go wrong.  Forgiveness is a powerful tool.  To see the addict as yourself in the eyes of God who showered you with His grace and love and welcomed you into His presence.

tes.org.uk

  1. Set clear boundaries. Mean what you say and say what you mean.  Just because you love the addict through his or her recovery does not mean you become their doormat.  Avoid becoming passive and enable the behavior.  As the addict’s support system you must also take care of yourself and the other family members who are going through the struggle with you and the addict.  As the supportive person, you may need to demonstrate some “tough love” at times so the addict knows that a boundary has been crossed.  It is not uncommon for an addict to experience jail time, homelessness, or something worst before he or she can turn the situation around.  Setting boundaries is an important instrument to provide safety for you and your family.line in the sand
  2. And finally, exercise some patience. Live your life and allow the addict to live his or her life as well.  The concerned family and friends cannot control the behavior or take care of the addict nor is it your responsibility to do so.  The addict must take control of their own well-being.  Even if the addict is a child under the age of 18 years of age.  Parents are physically responsible for the well-being of the child but they cannot control their feelings, emotions, or behavior.  But if there are clear boundaries and rules in place everyone will know what will happen if one of those boundaries has been crossed.  It is not uncommon for an addict to go through recovery or rehab several times before he or she is able to quit.  Continue to care and support him or her for the effort toward recovery.

vtdance

Until next time, be blessed.

request support

At Destination Greatness, we realize that addiction may co-exist with other diseases.  Yes, the addiction is a disease.  While some can experience using a substance and not become addicted others may become addicted after the first experience.  At Destination Greatness, we will help the individual explore the areas that cause a pivotal role in the addiction, while sobriety and abstinence remain the goal to foster change in the overall quality of life.  Destination Greatness, PLLC is available to anyone who has a desire to change.

By: Kristen Pettaway, MA LPC Liberty University | Clinical Case Manager Intern Destination Greatness, PLLC

 

References

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