7 Tools To Improve Mental Health

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September is Suicide Prevention Awareness Month. Mental illness, specifically untreated depression, is the leading cause of suicide. You are not alone. Seek help.

Mental illness is real. You can survive and thrive.-Shanna A. Jefferson

7 Tools To Improve Mental Health

  • Celebrate the positives of your loved one experiencing mental illness as well as those whom have lost their lives.
  • Forgive yourself.
  • Keep It Real. “We must be honest and transparent”. –Shanti Das
  • Make the decision to be happy.
  • Engage in self-care.
  • Engage in physical activity.
  • Turn your pain into purpose.

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5 Warning Signs of Depression

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Are you depressed?

According to the National Alliance on Mental Illness, an estimated 16 million American adults—almost 7% of the population—had at least one major depressive episode in the past year. (www.nami.org).

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It’s time to tell everyone who’s dealing with a mental health issue that they’re not alone, and that getting support and treatment isn’t a sign of weakness, it’s a sign of strength”.-First Lady Michelle Obama

5 Warning Signs of Depression

  1. A lack of interest in activities that the person used to be interested in. Typically, people who suffer from depression lose interest in doing things that they once enjoyed doing. This can range as anything from dropping out of social events like clubs and sports teams, to walling themselves off from outsiders with whom they once shared a hobby. This symptom of depression typically goes on to worsen the condition, because it hurts some of the social relationships that depression sufferers previously engaged in.
  2. A noticeable change in eating habits is another big warning sign of depression. While there are obviously a number of reasons why one might change their diet, big shifts in weight gain and/or weight loss typically signify a loss of interest in eating or a lackadaisical attitude towards making food. This symptom, in turn, can negatively impact a depression sufferer’s physical health.
  3. Suddenly noticing an increase in the number of headaches, stomachaches and physical symptoms is another sign of depression. While depression in itself is a mental condition, it is often accompanied by a number of physical discomforts like headaches and stomachaches.
  4. Constant fatigue or an inability to sleep is a big warning sign of depression. This can either come as a slight problem with sleeping enough to feel fully rested, or it can be full-blown insomnia. Waking up too early or constantly waking up during the night are other common signs of depression.
  5. The most serious sign of depression is thoughts of suicide or hurting oneself. Unlike the other symptoms, which on their own can be indicators of a number of conditions, this particular sign almost always signals depression.

(Source http://www.psyweb.com)

 

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Speak positivity through your pain, through your tears, through your joy…speak positive affirmations into your life. -Shanna A. Jefferson, MSW, CFSW, LCSW

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10 Things You Should Know About Mental Health

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Have you ever thought about how your friends view mental health?

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Luckily, many of my friends like myself, are psychology majors or have some type of back ground related to psychology. However, I do have a few that are less familiar with the topic, this post is for them.

I am not poking fun or calling you out, because you are ignorant to the topic, but I do want to spread my knowledge on the subject, being that so many people suffer from mental illness related issues.

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Listed below are 10 things I want my friends who are not educated on mental illness to know:

  1. Different people experience different things. There is no one size fits all mold when it comes to mental illness.
  2. Talking about mental illness/ mental health is not weird.
  3. Mental illnesses are not just figments of someone’s imagination.
  4. Medications are not the only way to help someone cope with mental illness.
  5. Some people need to be medicated, and that too is okay.
  6. No, you can’t “catch” mental illness.
  7. Mental health is just as important as physical health.
  8. Mental health and mental illness is not restricted to one race or gender.
  9. You cannot heal overnight, things take time.
  10. Don’t be afraid to ask questions, do your research.

 

Hopefully, this post will help you see the world in a different light. Maybe it will inspire you to help someone else, or maybe you will just read it and forget about it.

 

Keep On, Keeping On.

 

Katheryn Burton

Clemson University, BS Psychology ’18

Case Management Intern

Destination Greatness, PLLC

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Destination Greatness is a mental health and substance abuse psychotherapy agency dedicated to assisting individuals and families in maximizing their level of functioning on all life domains in pursuit of Greatness. Destination Greatness provide individuals and families with the opportunity to live more fulfilling and meaningful lives. Destination Greatness strives to enrich each individual and family through greater self-awareness, focus on strengths, and belief in a greater destiny.

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Mental Health and High School Students

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There is no doubt that people who suffer from Mental Health issues, need extra support. Regardless if it comes from a parent, friend, sponsor, or teacher, just having one person to believe in you can drastically increase self-confidence. Increasing self-confidence will increase self-wellness over time.

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In particular, students need someone who is willing to call and check in on them once or twice a week at most. This is true for students of just about any age, but high school students in particular. High school can be a rough time and even harder for students who are suffering from mental illnesses that may or may not be diagnosed.phone.jpeg

 

By checking in on the student you are showing them they have someone who cares about them and that they are important to someone.

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Parents, make sure you talk to your kids about their mental wellness. Try to understand what they are going through, but also understand they may want to talk to someone other than you about issues related to mental health. Try to encourage them to make the best decisions for their lives. However, if they do not make the best decision, remember they are still your child and support them no matter what comes next.

 

Keep on, keeping on.

 

 

Katheryn Burton

Clemson University, BS Psychology ’18

Case Management Intern

Destination Greatness, PLLC

 

 

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About Destination Greatness

Destination Greatness is a mental health and substance abuse psychotherapy agency dedicated to assisting individuals and families in maximizing their level of functioning on all life domains in pursuit of Greatness. Destination Greatness provide individuals and families with the opportunity to live more fulfilling and meaningful lives. Destination Greatness strives to enrich each individual and family through greater self-awareness, focus on strengths, and belief in a greater destiny.

 

 

 

 

 

Grief: An Essential Part of Mental Health

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Death is inevitable, it is the one thing that everyone is guaranteed. Coping with death is also something that everyone will have to go through at some point in their lives. Though many would like to think there is a “one size fits all” way to grief, there simply is not. There is not a set timeline, nor is there a correct way to grieve. Everyone is different.

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Some put their feelings away and make everything a joke, some turn inward and refuse to talk about it. Others, turn to journaling or some form of spiritual healing. No matter how you deal with the death of a loved one, know it is necessary to deal with it.

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Grieving the loss of a loved one is required, for someone to “move on” with their life. No, I am not suggesting that you should forget all your precious memories to move on from missing your loved one, I am simply suggesting that you must learn a new normal living without them.

I think this is the hardest part. Accepting a new normal is hard, for me anyways. I, like many I am sure, really despise change in general. Two years after the death of my treasured step-father, I still find myself tearing up when I hear any AC DC song. Old school rock and roll was his thing, he would listen to it in his truck, on the house speakers, etc. Honestly, I think he would listen to it anywhere he could blast it.

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Grieving is essential for one’s mental health to stay upright. It may take you a while to realize what you are going through, and how to cope with it. However, once you get to this point, you will be in a better mental state.

 

 

Keep on, keeping on.

 

Katheryn Burton

Clemson University, BS Psychology ’18

Case Management Intern

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4 Ways for Easy and Quick Self-Care.

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When thinking of self-care, most people think of bath bombs, spa time, and relaxing vacations. However, self-care can come in the form of anything that helps you release stress. Whether it is taking time to let all of your emotions out  or journaling. We are going to cover a few self-care tips for the busy person.

1.Let it out. It is okay to cry, many people can release stress just by crying it out.

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2. Meditate. Download a meditation app on your phone, or search for meditation videos on Youtube. Meditating can be an hour or ten minutes and it is guaranteed to relieve built up stress and emotions.

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3. Find what makes you happy. Find something that can keep your mind clear of your situation. Listen to your favorite music, read a new book, or take up a new hobby. Refocusing your mind on something can help keep you upbeat and positive.

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4. Journaling. Many people who keep a journal report that it is a stress reliever. If you are not able to write everyday, try writing an entry one a week a week for a month, then decide if it is something you feel works for you.

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Keep on, keeping on.

 

 

Katheryn Burton

Clemson University, BS Psychology ’18

Case Management Intern

Destination Greatness, PLLC

 

 

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About Destination Greatness

Destination Greatness is a mental health and substance abuse psychotherapy agency dedicated to assisting individuals and families in maximizing their level of functioning on all life domains in pursuit of Greatness. Destination Greatness provide individuals and families with the opportunity to live more fulfilling and meaningful lives. Destination Greatness strives to enrich each individual and family through greater self-awareness, focus on strengths, and belief in a greater destiny.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Arming Our Schools: Why Counselors and School Social Workers are Needed.

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With the topic of school shootings and arming teachers on the rise, I felt the need to write about what our schools actually need. As a parent I would never feel comfortable if I knew my child was in a classroom where his teacher had a loaded gun on his/her body. I think instead we need to arm our children and teachers with more counselors and social workers.

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The need for school social workers and counselors are at an all time high with the rates of mental illnesses in youths.

Though, there is a high need for workers in these careers, there are many people who are unsure of what these professionals do.

According to, SocialWorkDegreeGuide.com,  a “school social worker is an important asset to students, parents, communities, and school districts. By working to ensure that all students are equipped and able to handle the demands of an education, school social workers are able to help children and adolescents overcome a number of obstacles that could impede both social and academic success.”

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It seems to me that if each school were able to add an extra school counselor or social worker, then catastrophes could be avoided. All because someone was able to take the time to understand and relate to students on a  more personal level.

 

 

Keep on, keeping on.

 

 

Katheryn Burton

Clemson University, BS Psychology ’18

Case Management Intern

Destination Greatness, PLLC

 

 

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About Destination Greatness

Destination Greatness is a mental health and substance abuse psychotherapy agency dedicated to assisting individuals and families in maximizing their level of functioning on all life domains in pursuit of Greatness. Destination Greatness provide individuals and families with the opportunity to live more fulfilling and meaningful lives. Destination Greatness strives to enrich each individual and family through greater self-awareness, focus on strengths, and belief in a greater destiny.

 

 

 

 

 

 

3 Tools: Speak To Your Pain

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Holding on to pain, anger, guilt or shame is the glue that binds us to the situation we want to escape. -Iyanla Vanzant

We’ve all experienced pain, disappointment, and adversities in life. Perhaps, it was the homegoing of a loved one, medical issues, relationship trauma, abuse, or financial stressors. Please know that your greatest adversities in life can fuel your greatest successes.

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3 Tools to Speak To Your Pain

1.Acknowledge Your Pain

2. Write A Letter to Your Pain

3.Turn Your Pain into Purpose

Dear Pain,

You have no purpose in my life. You have to go!-DA

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Are you ready to share your story? Are you ready to take your power back? Are you ready to turn your pain into purpose?

If so, then email us at speaktoyourpain@gmail.com as we will officially release details on the Speak To Your Pain collaborative book project.

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Love is not, Obsessive.

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February is known as the month of love, this month we have discussed many topics. Including loving someone with a mental illness, improving communication skills, and healthy relationships, to name a few.  Though this post is still centered on the topic of love, it will focus on what love is not.

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Below is an excerpt from MedicineNet.com, about Obsessive love, and healthy love.

“What’s the difference between healthy and obsessive love?

The difference between healthy and obsessive love is that with the latter, those feelings of infatuation become extreme, expanding to the point of becoming obsessions. Obsessive love and jealousy that is delusional is a symptom of mental-health problems and is a symptom that occurs in about 0.1% of adults. Individuals who suffer from delusional jealousy often interpret minor experiences like a coworker saying hello to their spouse or romantic partner looking at a passerby as positive proof that their loved one is being unfaithful. Male alcoholics have been found to be particularly vulnerable to developing delusional jealousy. Females are more likely to develop obsessive love toward people they know rather than toward a stranger. The objects of love for women who love obsessively are often people who have been in the role of helper in their lives. In the uncommon instances that obsessive love involves violence, men and women seem to be perpetrators of such violence at equal rates. Risk factors for developing obsessive love include a lack of full-time employment as well as having family members who have psychiatric problems, particularly a delusional disorder.

What are the signs of obsessive love?

Aside from delusional jealousy, obsessive love can be differentiated from a healthy love relationship by having addictive qualities. For example, the person who suffers from obsessive love tends to want to spend excessive time with their love object, such that they think excessively about and engage in behaviors that put them in touch with their love object to an extreme degree. They may limit how much they engage in recreational activities or other social relationships, even becoming incapacitated to the point of being unable to work. A person who obsessively loves may engage in escalating tools of psychological control, or other forms of control, in an effort to keep their love object close. Examples of that include controlling money or food and in extreme cases, stalking or using violence. The individual who is obsessively in love, as well as the object of that love, may be dependent and codependent on each other, respectively. The person who loves obsessively may behave as if addicted to their love object. In turn, the object of obsessive love may have difficulty setting clear limits and boundaries on the obsessive behaviors.”

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Hopefully, this article will  help you realize what is healthy in a relationship and that there is a difference between obsessive and healthy love.

The full article can be found at, https://www.medicinenet.com/confusing_love_with_obsession/views.htm.

 

Keep on, keeping on.

 

 

Katheryn Burton

Clemson University, BS Psychology ’18

Case Management Intern

Destination Greatness, PLLC

 

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Destination Greatness is a mental health and substance abuse psychotherapy agency dedicated to assisting individuals and families in maximizing their level of functioning on all life domains in pursuit of Greatness. Destination Greatness provide individuals and families with the opportunity to live more fulfilling and meaningful lives. Destination Greatness strives to enrich each individual and family through greater self-awareness, focus on strengths, and belief in a greater destiny.

 

 

 

 

Love and Mental Illness

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It’s finally February and love is in the air! This month my posts will be dedicated to all things relationship and love related. We will begin this theme, by discussing the broad topic of love and mental illness.

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With or without mental illness, relationships are tough, adding the factor of a mental illness just makes the challenge a little greater. Though some may think it is impossible to love or be loved by someone with a mental illness, you are very wrong. There are plenty of people who are very much in love with someone who has a mental illness, or who has a mental illness themselves.

Below, is an excerpt from PsychGuides.com, about love and mental illness.

 

“We surveyed more than 2,000 people in the U.S. to explore the effects mental disorders can have on relationships, comparing responses from men and women to see where these experiences and concerns diverged by gender. Our respondents opened up about how forthright they are about their mental health, how supportive their partners are, and which insecurities they encounter.

First, let’s get a closer look at our survey respondents. Among those who completed our survey, 64 percent reported having some type of mental disorder. Anxiety and depression were the most common issues among respondents, together comprising over 44 percent of reported mental disorders.

Anger was the third-most-common issue. A number of disorders comprised around 5 to 6 percent of mental disorders: substance abuse, addiction to sex/porn, other addictive behaviors, ADHD, and eating disorders. Fewer respondents reported OCD, panic disorder, sexual abuse, and PTSD.

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Unfortunately, even today there can be a stigma attached to mental health disorders, which can make people reluctant to tell even those closest to them that they have a mental health condition. We asked our respondents who have mental disorders whether they shared their diagnosis with their partner. Nearly three-quarters of women told their partners about their mental health issue, but only slightly more than half of men disclosed the information.

Relationship experts have found that healthy long-term relationships require honesty and trust, so it’s best to disclose a mental health disorder before experiencing an acute episode that could bring it into the open. If you’d like to learn more about navigating a relationship while dealing with a mental health disorder, visit PsychGuides.com.”

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To read the full article please visit, https://www.psychguides.com/interact/love-and-mental-illness/.

 

Katheryn Burton

Clemson University, BS Psychology ’18

Case Management Intern

Destination Greatness, PLLC

 

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About Destination Greatness

Destination Greatness is a mental health and substance abuse psychotherapy agency dedicated to assisting individuals and families in maximizing their level of functioning on all life domains in pursuit of Greatness. Destination Greatness provide individuals and families with the opportunity to live more fulfilling and meaningful lives. Destination Greatness strives to enrich each individual and family through greater self-awareness, focus on strengths, and belief in a greater destiny.