7 Nuggets: Faith and Mental Health

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Are your spiritual or religious beliefs hindering your mental well-being? For some, there seems to be a dichotomy between mental wellness and religion.  “Prayer changes everything.” “Mental illness manifests because of sin.” These prophecies will only further compound and complicate the real struggles that those whom live with mental health challenges experience.  Mental health challenges are just as real as physical health challenges.

Faith Without Works is Dead.

Churches and other places of worship should take a more prominent role in the discussion, advocacy, and action as it pertains to dismantling the mental health stigma. According to the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI), 1 in 4 Americans experience a mental illness. Thus, in any given congregation, you will have many that have experienced a mental health challenge.

A Candid Conversation

I recently had the opportunity to present on the topic “Faith and Mental Health” at Mt.Pisgah I.M.C. in Clyo, GA. Our candid conversation included a discussion of what mental health challenges are, what mental health challenges look like, and triggers of mental health challenges.

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Are you ready to commence the conversation on role of faith and the church in addressing mental health challenges?

7 Tips to Improve Your Faith and Mental Health

  1. Keep God first.
  2. Forgive yourself.
  3. Seek professional help.
  4. Make the decision to be happy.
  5. Engage in self-care.
  6. Never give up.
  7. Turn your pain into purpose.

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Professional Services

As a psychotherapist, I understand the many challenges those experiencing a mental illness encounter including shame, a lack of support, and denial. You are not alone.

Destination Greatness also offers convenient, confidential online and telephone therapy to residents of NC, SC, and GA. No insurance required. Limited office sessions available in Atlanta, GA and Greenville, SC.

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To arrange a confidential, online or telephone session, schedule your appointment online at http://www.destinationgreatnesspllc.org.  Or call 1-800-647-3345.

Testimonial

This young lady speaks from the heart and with God on her side. Give her your ear to receive a much needed word of encouragement.-Sebrena Holmes Gibson

For bookings, contact pr@shannajefferson.com.

Shanna A. Jefferson

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7 Nuggets: Faith and Mental Health

Uncategorized

Are your spiritual or religious beliefs hindering your mental well-being? For some, there seems to be a dichotomy between mental wellness and religion.  “Prayer changes everything.” “Mental illness manifests because of sin.” These prophecies will only further compound and complicate the real struggles that those whom live with mental health challenges experience.  Mental health challenges are just as real as physical health challenges.

Faith Without Works is Dead.

Churches and other places of worship should take a more prominent role in the discussion, advocacy, and action as it pertains to dismantling the mental health stigma. According to the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI), 1 in 4 Americans experience a mental illness. Thus, in any given congregation, you will have many that have experienced a mental health challenge.

A Candid Conversation

I recently had the opportunity to present on the topic “Faith and Mental Health” at Mt.Pisgah I.M.C. in Clyo, GA. Our candid conversation included a discussion of what mental health challenges are, what mental health challenges look like, and triggers of mental health challenges.

MtPisgahChurchImage

Are you ready to commence the conversation on role of faith and the church in addressing mental health challenges?

7 Tips to Improve Your Faith and Mental Health

  1. Keep God first.
  2. Forgive yourself.
  3. Seek professional help.
  4. Make the decision to be happy.
  5. Engage in self-care.
  6. Never give up.
  7. Turn your pain into purpose.

Faith&MentalHealth

Professional Services

As a psychotherapist, I understand the many challenges those experiencing a mental illness encounter including shame, a lack of support, and denial. You are not alone.

Destination Greatness also offers convenient, confidential online and telephone therapy to residents of NC, SC, and GA. No insurance required. Limited office sessions available in Atlanta, GA and Greenville, SC.

DG Logo.jpg

To arrange a confidential, online or telephone session, schedule your appointment online at http://www.destinationgreatnesspllc.org.  Or call 1-800-647-3345.

Testimonial

This young lady speaks from the heart and with God on her side. Give her your ear to receive a much needed word of encouragement.-Sebrena Holmes Gibson

For bookings, contact pr@shannajefferson.com.

Shanna A. Jefferson

Mental Health and Black Girl Magic

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Last week, after the grief blog was published, I was approached by a former classmate in a store. We made small talk about life and how our children were. Before parting, she told me how helpful my blogs were for her every week. As you can imagine I was super shocked, and extremely delighted. Not delighted because people are reading my blogs, but because my blog had done exactly what I intended it to do, help someone.

She explained to me that in her family, mental health is not really a top priority. She told me about how being the only girl in her family with two older brothers, if it didn’t revolve around sports her parents weren’t really interested. She explained to me that before she was diagnosed, she suffered from depression and anxiety for years. She explained to me that her mom and grandmother had both told her to, “suck it up”, about her depression.sad girl

Fast forward to the end of the week, I was scrolling on Facebook and found an article about African American families and mental health. Per usual, I saw something on mental health so of course I read it, plus the girl I had just spoken with a few days prior was indeed an African American female.

Now, I know what you’re thinking, “what does this white girl know about anything in the African American home?”. Truth be told, probably not much. However, as the mother of a biracial child, who has dated African American boys, and who has many friends who just happen to be black, I like to think I am a little informed of the African American culture.  black girl

I have always heard about and seen the differences among races. There’s the stereotypes, the food, and even different slang between white and black people in my small town of Laurens, South Carolina. Of all things, I would have never imagined that mental health would be a topic that was completely opposite in these two races.

However, I was very wrong.

In the article, the author talked about how even as a grown mother of 3 with her PsyD in Clinical Psychology, her family still mocked her about her mental health issues. After more research, I found how common this was for the African American community, especially for girls.

 

After reading this article, my heart hurt for every girl who has been told to “suck it up or “get over it” while battling with her mental health.get over.jpeg

As an avid “googler” I decided to find a list of famous African American females who openly talked about their mental health. I feel like many times people can relate more, to people whom they are like. (Not just the white girl who never hushes about how important mental health is.) I decided to list these females, in hopes that maybe just one girl can tell her friend or family member that she can openly talk about her mental health because, Beyoncé or Kerry Washington (that’s Olivia Pope) does.

Listed below are four of the most fierce and recognized women in Hollywood. These ladies have all been openly interviewed about their mental health.

  1. Beyoncé
  2. Kerry Washington
  3. Oprah
  4. Halle Berry

Now, I am not telling you to back talk your grandma or mama, but next time someone tells you to “get over it” about your mental health, make sure you tell them that if Queen Bey can openly talk about mental health, then you can too!

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Keep on, Keeping on. *Now go show the world that Black girl magic is real*

 

Katheryn Burton

Clemson University, BS Psychology ’18

Case Management Intern

Destination Greatness, PLLC

Dedicated to the old friend in Target, and all my girls. XOXO

 

About Destination Greatness

Destination Greatness is a mental health and substance abuse psychotherapy agency dedicated to assisting individuals and families in maximizing their level of functioning on all life domains in pursuit of Greatness. Destination Greatness provide individuals and families with the opportunity to live more fulfilling and meaningful lives. Destination Greatness strives to enrich each individual and family through greater self-awareness, focus on strengths, and belief in a greater destiny.

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Services are available to residents if NC, SC, and GA. Schedule your appointment today at http://www.destinationgreatnesspllc.org.

 

 

 

 

 

5 Tools to Detox Your Life

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With the New Year just days away, I challenge each you of you to commence your routine today to elevate your life! Here are 5 tools to detox your life.

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  1. Fix your finances. Look at your previous bank statements and determine what bills you can eliminate to help you save money on a monthly basis. What can you do without?
  2. Let go of toxic people. This could be a family member, friend, coworker or remove yourself from a toxic relationship. “You must get rid of what you want to get what you deserve” – 33 Tools For Success by Shanna Jefferson purchase here.

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Recommended hours of sleep for adults 7 – 8 hours per day ages (18 – 64). – National Sleep Foundation

  1. Get Sleep.  Make sure you are getting the recommended hours of sleep per night. Avoid built up negative energy. Being well rested gives you enough will-power to get through the day and make better decisions.

 

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  1. Exercise. Get moving! Especially when you tend to overthink things. Put on your headphones and get active to temporarily get your mind off of problems at hand and come back to them later with a fresh perspective.

 

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     5. Watch an inspiring movie or documentary. Find a positive movie or TV show that closely resembles what you want to project in your own life. Get inspired by the process and afterward jot down some steps to take towards your goal in life.

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Blessings for a prosperous 2018!!! And please do not neglect to take care of your mental health in 2018.

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Shanna A. Jefferson

5 Tips To Help The Recovering Addict

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By: Kristen Pettaway, MA LPC Liberty University | Clinical Case Manager Intern Destination Greatness, PLLC

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Support Group

Substance use and abuse are rampant in our communities.  For many family and friends of the addicted encouraging efforts may be exhausting and frustrating.  The addiction is controlling your loved one and there seems to be nothing that you can do about it.  Over the past several weeks I have had the opportunity to collaborate with members of Alcoholics Anonymous (AA), Narcotics Anonymous (NA) and Al-Anon.  While attending these meetings I have identified at least five ways that the concerned party of the addict can do to encourage their loved one without offending or becoming frustrated in the process.

AA has been in operation for more than 80 years with NA, and Al-Anon later establishing groups based on the AA principles.  These perceptive groups welcome anyone who has decided that the addictive behavior has become harmful enough to their health and well-being that sobriety is the only option.  While a guest at these different group meetings I walked away with 5 very important ways to help the recovering addict in his or her sobriety.

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  1. To eliminate the frustration: Stop telling the addict about his or her addictive behavior.  In order for the behavior to change the addict must be willing to change it. It is not enough for the family and friends to want the addict to quit his or her behavior.  The addict must want to change his or her behavior on their own.  When the addict is ready to commit to becoming sober they must first admit that there is a problem.  No one can tell the addict that he or she has a problem that needs to be fixed, that revelation must come from within.
  2. Help imageApply the Twelve-Step and the Twelve Traditions to your own life. Once the addict has made a commitment to change he or she must do the work.  Family and friends cannot do the work for the addict.  The family and friends have their own specific job to do for their own well-being and the addict has specific things to do to work on their stuff.  Whatever that stuff is, each person is challenged to work the Twelve-Steps and the Twelve Traditions of the program on their own.tes.org.uk
  1. Love the addict through their recovery. Since family and friends cannot do the work for the addict, trying and continuing to force your will onto the addict is futile and a mere waste of your time.  The only thing you can do is to continue to love them through it, as much as you can.  Prayer will help you help yourself and the addict build strength to go on.  Extending grace to the addict whenever things go wrong.  Forgiveness is a powerful tool.  To see the addict as yourself in the eyes of God who showered you with His grace and love and welcomed you into His presence.
  1. line in the sandSet clear boundaries. Mean what you say and say what you mean.  Just because you love the addict through his or her recovery does not mean you become their doormat.  Avoid becoming passive and enable the behavior.  As the addict’s support system you must also take care of yourself and the other family members who are going through the struggle with you and the addict.  As the supportive person, you may need to demonstrate some “tough love” at times so the addict knows that a boundary has been crossed.  It is not uncommon for an addict to experience jail time, homelessness, or something worst before he or she can turn the situation around.  Setting boundaries is an important instrument to provide safety for you and your family.vtdance
  2. And finally, exercise some patience. Live your life and allow the addict to live his or her life as well.  The concerned family and friends cannot control the behavior or take care of the addict nor is it your responsibility to do so.  The addict must take control of their own well-being.  Even if the addict is a child under the age of 18 years of age.  Parents are physically responsible for the well-being of the child but they cannot control their feelings, emotions, or behavior.  But if there are clear boundaries and rules in place everyone will know what will happen if one of those boundaries has been crossed.  It is not uncommon for an addict to go through recovery or rehab several times before he or she is able to quit.  Continue to care and support him or her for the effort toward recovery.

Until next time, be blessed.

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LogoAt Destination Greatness, we realize that addiction may co-exist with other diseases.  Yes, the addiction is a disease.  While some can experience using a substance and not become addicted others may become addicted after the first experience.  At Destination Greatness, we will help the individual explore the areas that cause a pivotal role in the addiction, while sobriety and abstinence remain the goal to foster change in the overall quality of life.  Destination Greatness, PLLC is available to anyone who has a desire to change.

 

 

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Mental Health and Black Girl Magic

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Last week, after the grief blog was published, I was approached by a former classmate in a store. We made small talk about life and how our children were. Before parting, she told me how helpful my blogs were for her every week. As you can imagine I was super shocked, and extremely delighted. Not delighted because people are reading my blogs, but because my blog had done exactly what I intended it to do, help someone.

She explained to me that in her family, mental health is not really a top priority. She told me about how being the only girl in her family with two older brothers, if it didn’t revolve around sports her parents weren’t really interested. She explained to me that before she was diagnosed, she suffered from depression and anxiety for years. She explained to me that her mom and grandmother had both told her to, “suck it up”, about her depression.sad girl

Fast forward to the end of the week, I was scrolling on Facebook and found an article about African American families and mental health. Per usual, I saw something on mental health so of course I read it, plus the girl I had just spoken with a few days prior was indeed an African American female.

Now, I know what you’re thinking, “what does this white girl know about anything in the African American home?”. Truth be told, probably not much. However, as the mother of a biracial child, who has dated African American boys, and who has many friends who just happen to be black, I like to think I am a little informed of the African American culture.  black girl

I have always heard about and seen the differences among races. There’s the stereotypes, the food, and even different slang between white and black people in my small town of Laurens, South Carolina. Of all things, I would have never imagined that mental health would be a topic that was completely opposite in these two races.

However, I was very wrong.

In the article, the author talked about how even as a grown mother of 3 with her PsyD in Clinical Psychology, her family still mocked her about her mental health issues. After more research, I found how common this was for the African American community, especially for girls.

 

After reading this article, my heart hurt for every girl who has been told to “suck it up or “get over it” while battling with her mental health.get over.jpeg

As an avid “googler” I decided to find a list of famous African American females who openly talked about their mental health. I feel like many times people can relate more, to people whom they are like. (Not just the white girl who never hushes about how important mental health is.) I decided to list these females, in hopes that maybe just one girl can tell her friend or family member that she can openly talk about her mental health because, Beyoncé or Kerry Washington (that’s Olivia Pope) does.

Listed below are four of the most fierce and recognized women in Hollywood. These ladies have all been openly interviewed about their mental health.

  1. Beyoncé
  2. Kerry Washington
  3. Oprah
  4. Halle Berry

Now, I am not telling you to back talk your grandma or mama, but next time someone tells you to “get over it” about your mental health, make sure you tell them that if Queen Bey can openly talk about mental health, then you can too!

clarke-sanders-249798

Keep on, Keeping on. *Now go show the world that Black girl magic is real*

 

Katheryn Burton

Clemson University, BS Psychology ’18

Case Management Intern

Destination Greatness, PLLC

Dedicated to the old friend in Target, and all my girls. XOXO

 

About Destination Greatness

Destination Greatness is a mental health and substance abuse psychotherapy agency dedicated to assisting individuals and families in maximizing their level of functioning on all life domains in pursuit of Greatness. Destination Greatness provide individuals and families with the opportunity to live more fulfilling and meaningful lives. Destination Greatness strives to enrich each individual and family through greater self-awareness, focus on strengths, and belief in a greater destiny.

DG Logo

Services are available to residents if NC, SC, and GA. Schedule your appointment today at http://www.destinationgreatnesspllc.org.

 

 

 

 

 

5 Tips To Help The Recovering Addict

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support

Support Group

Substance use and abuse are rampant in our communities.  For many family and friends of the addicted encouraging efforts may be exhausting and frustrating.  The addiction is controlling your loved one and there seems to be nothing that you can do about it.  Over the past several weeks I have had the opportunity to collaborate with members of Alcoholics Anonymous (AA), Narcotics Anonymous (NA) and Al-Anon.  While attending these meetings I have identified at least five ways that the concerned party of the addict can do to encourage their loved one without offending or becoming frustrated in the process.

AA has been in operation for more than 80 years with NA, and Al-Anon later establishing groups based on the AA principles.  These perceptive groups welcome anyone who has decided that the addictive behavior has become harmful enough to their health and well-being that sobriety is the only option.  While a guest at these different group meetings I walked away with 5 very important ways to help the recovering addict in his or her sobriety.

  1. To eliminate the frustration: Stop telling the addict about his or her addictive behavior.  In order for the behavior to change the addict must be willing to change it. It is not enough for the family and friends to want the addict to quit his or her behavior.  The addict must want to change his or her behavior on their own.  When the addict is ready to commit to becoming sober they must first admit that there is a problem.  No one can tell the addict that he or she has a problem that needs to be fixed, that revelation must come from within.

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Ah – Hah Moment!

  1. Apply the Twelve-Step and the Twelve Traditions to your own life. Once the addict has made a commitment to change he or she must do the work.  Family and friends cannot do the work for the addict.  The family and friends have their own specific job to do for their own well-being and the addict has specific things to do to work on their stuff.  Whatever that stuff is, each person is challenged to work the Twelve-Steps and the Twelve Traditions of the program on their own.

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  1. Love the addict through their recovery. Since family and friends cannot do the work for the addict, trying and continuing to force your will onto the addict is futile and a mere waste of your time.  The only thing you can do is to continue to love them through it, as much as you can.  Prayer will help you help yourself and the addict build strength to go on.  Extending grace to the addict whenever things go wrong.  Forgiveness is a powerful tool.  To see the addict as yourself in the eyes of God who showered you with His grace and love and welcomed you into His presence.

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  1. Set clear boundaries. Mean what you say and say what you mean.  Just because you love the addict through his or her recovery does not mean you become their doormat.  Avoid becoming passive and enable the behavior.  As the addict’s support system you must also take care of yourself and the other family members who are going through the struggle with you and the addict.  As the supportive person, you may need to demonstrate some “tough love” at times so the addict knows that a boundary has been crossed.  It is not uncommon for an addict to experience jail time, homelessness, or something worst before he or she can turn the situation around.  Setting boundaries is an important instrument to provide safety for you and your family.line in the sand
  2. And finally, exercise some patience. Live your life and allow the addict to live his or her life as well.  The concerned family and friends cannot control the behavior or take care of the addict nor is it your responsibility to do so.  The addict must take control of their own well-being.  Even if the addict is a child under the age of 18 years of age.  Parents are physically responsible for the well-being of the child but they cannot control their feelings, emotions, or behavior.  But if there are clear boundaries and rules in place everyone will know what will happen if one of those boundaries has been crossed.  It is not uncommon for an addict to go through recovery or rehab several times before he or she is able to quit.  Continue to care and support him or her for the effort toward recovery.

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Until next time, be blessed.

request support

At Destination Greatness, we realize that addiction may co-exist with other diseases.  Yes, the addiction is a disease.  While some can experience using a substance and not become addicted others may become addicted after the first experience.  At Destination Greatness, we will help the individual explore the areas that cause a pivotal role in the addiction, while sobriety and abstinence remain the goal to foster change in the overall quality of life.  Destination Greatness, PLLC is available to anyone who has a desire to change.

By: Kristen Pettaway, MA LPC Liberty University | Clinical Case Manager Intern Destination Greatness, PLLC

 

References

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4 Tips: Mental Wellness & The Entrepreneur

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Mental Health and the Entrepreneur

Entrepreneurs are bold and audacious people pursing their passions.  The day to day activities of the entrepreneur are often solo.  Most start-ups are one-person machines.  The contrast between leadership and being alone in the journey can often leave entrepreneurs overly stressed.

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A start-up is exciting and fills the entrepreneur with purpose and passion.  However, it can quickly lead to depression, leaving many entrepreneurs confused.  Shouldn’t turning your passion into a business fill you with energy and happiness?

The feelings of isolation can be like a slow and steady pain that grows overtime and saps entrepreneurs from the inside out especially when their mental health needs are neglected.

Releasing stress after work with co-workers, a spouse or anyone that can relate is a great way to unwind.  The challenge with many entrepreneurs is that the day-to-day activities aren’t normal.  Most people can’t relate or have no idea what you’re talking about when you try to vent.  It’s difficult to explain and can be even more taxing to have to lay the groundwork to talk about an issue you’re having.

My challenge for all my fellow entrepreneurs is to take control of your mental health. Your success depends on it.

4 Mental Wellness Tips for the Entrepreneur

  1. Engage in Self-Care.
  2. Surround Yourself with Like-Minded People.
  3. Complete a personal and business inventory.
  4. Seek professional help.
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Shanna A. Jefferson, MSW, CFSW, LCSW, LISW-CP/S

About The Author

Shanna A. Jefferson, LCSW, is a firm believer that everyone can transcend adversity and achieve greatness.  As a Woman of God, Change Agent, Business Executive, Life Coach, Philanthropist and Author – she is inspired by her late father and Civil Rights Activist George M. Jefferson to strive towards greatness while serving others. Having achieved a Bachelors of Public Policy and Masters of Social Work from the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill, she is currently a Doctor of Social Work Candidate at Capella University.

In addition to her academic achievements, Shanna is a thriving entrepreneur as well. She is CEO of Destination Greatness, Founder of The Destination Greatness Foundation, COO of 1929 Enterprises, CEO of Divine Vision Coaching and Consulting and Chief Visionary Officer of Shanna A. Jefferson, Inc. She is also an active member of the National Association of Social Workers and the Financial Therapy Association.  At age 32, Shanna became a self-published Author with the release of 32 Shades of Greatness and thereafter The Greatness Toolbox: 33 Tools for Success and Be Bodacious: A 30-Day Challenge for Entrepreneurs to Elevate Your Life.

Connect with Shanna

Website: http://www.shannajefferson.com

Facebook: facebook.com/entrepreneurshannajefferson